[MercuryT]

BlueOval that's a great post so I won't cover it all.

Yes adaptability is important but it depends on the issue.

For instance.
My Ex VERY money driven - when we married she didn't have a job. I clearly was unaware of this trait and that's my fault. I'm happy with my income and basic life. She is Audi and brand labels when had my/our money available. (her choice, many are)

I am extremely house happy - jobs around the house I can do, movies, dogs etc, my Ex is very social and never slowed down.

At Uni we'd be out 3 times a a week drinking etc but as I'm older I don't really want to go out. My Ex with new husband on Instagram out etc etc and I wouldn't even know how to use it. (nor want to)

So yeah.

No right or wrong, we grew in different ways, just I truly regret marrying too early for me (not saying others like yourselves shouldn't)

The Legal system an entirely different matter which has been covered already in terms of injustice. Refer back to money driven that I wasn't aware of.