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Originally Posted by Franco Cozzo
Yeah so what he's got a DV incident to his name - There's tonnes of DV incidents happening on a daily basis. It hardly counts it's not like he smashed her up and she got taken out in an ambulance to hospital.
He threw a chopping board and it hit her and called her a few names over text. Absolute BS charges who hasn't thrown/broken **** and called their partner names?
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yeah that is not okay.
what you're doing here is diminishing what he's actually done. it's not like her smashed her up? This sort of stuff is what abusers say to justify their behaviour.
If anyone has those sorts of tendencies.... and/or thinks it's okay to downplay it as not that serious.... please seek professional help because it is serious.
It's calling 'minimising' and is a trait of abusive men.
https://www.dcp.wa.gov.au/CrisisAndE...cteristics.pdf
Minimisation and denial:
- saying it was ‘only’ a slap or that the victim is overreacting;
- blaming alcohol/ stress/unemployment;
- mitigating behaviour by downplaying the damage and injury;
- providing inconsistent accounts;
- using loss of control as an excuse.
There are resources and programs available to men who see these traits in themselves
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https://ntv.org.au/
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https://www.domesticviolence.com.au/...-education.php for those who have orders against them
and stories of success:
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"I'm very proud of who I am today and the changes that I've made that have made me the man I am today," he said.
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https://www.abc.net.au/news/2015-05-...etford/6436126
It's important that other men call this stuff out when they see it.
Yeah it's socially uncomfortable but men with abusive tendencies need to know that other men don't agree with them.